There's the version of you that shows up at work, manages the family, and maintains the reputation. Then there's the version of you that exists in private, the one with desires and drives, and sometimes shame and secrets.

Some people keep these selves separate. Sometimes that works fine. Sometimes the private self starts causing problems the public self can't solve.

If you're here, something about your sexual life is creating friction. Maybe it feels out of control. Maybe it's just confusing. Maybe you've never told anyone the full truth about it.

You don't have to perform here. You don't have to clean it up or present it in an acceptable way. Whatever you're carrying, we can look at it.

Sex & Intimacy Therapy

What Brings People Here

Intimacy that's disappeared. You want to want your partner. Something's blocking it. The desire is gone, or it's there but you can't access it with them.

Sexual behavior that feels compulsive. Affairs, hookups, patterns you keep repeating even though you know better. The logic is clear. The behavior continues anyway.

Shame around sex, desire, and your past. Regret about past experience. Pain from things that happened to you but shouldn't have. Kinks you've never told anyone. Fantasies that don't match the person you're supposed to be. The fear that if anyone really knew, they'd see you differently.

Porn that's taken over more than you intended. It started as something occasional. Now it's daily. Now it's interfering with work, sleep, relationships. You've tried to stop through willpower, blockers, accountability apps but nothing sticks.

Difficulty with sex itself. Arousal, orgasm, presence. Often connected to anxiety, past experiences, or something that has nothing to do with sex on the surface.

Intimacy

You can share a bed and still feel alone. Bond deeply in some ways and keep other parts locked away. Look at your partner and wonder what they're not showing you or notice what you're not showing them.

Intimacy problems live in the space between people.

Therapy helps you see what's actually happening, where the distance is, what it's protecting, and whether you want it there.

When therapy works, you feel it. You stop bracing. You let someone see you, and you see who's actually there. Closeness becomes something your body relaxes into instead of manages.

A lot of people carry shame about their sexuality. What they want. What they've done. What they imagine. What happened to them.

This shame came from somewhere. Family, religion, culture, a relationship, an experience that marked you. It stuck, and it kept you quiet.

Shame takes over. It shapes what you let yourself want, who you let yourself be with, what you think you deserve.

Therapy helps the shame release. Your relationship with yourself changes. It gets easier to live in your own skin. You get to decide what your sexuality means and how you want to express it with yourself and others.

Shame

Sexuality is layered. What turns you on often has roots in your psychology, sometimes in places that may surprise you.

Some desires are easy to express and integrate. Others feel more complicated. They might conflict with how you see yourself, or with your values, or with the life you're trying to build. They might carry shame, confusion, or a compulsive edge you don't fully understand.

Having desires that fall outside the conventional script doesn't mean something is wrong with you. But it also doesn't mean there's nothing to explore. The things that arouse us are often connected to our stories, our early experiences, our wounds, our particular way of seeking control, intensity, surrender, or release.

We are not here to pathologize your kinks or talk you out of them. But if you're curious about where they come from, or if they're causing you distress, we can look at that together. We can help you find clarity in what truly belongs and what might release if healing takes place in other areas of your life.

Desire

Compulsion

When porn or sex feels out of control, the real problem isn't porn or sex. It's WHY are you using porn or sex? And WHAT are you using to for?

Stress. Loneliness. A need to escape from a life that feels overwhelming or hollow. Often there is an old familiar pain that found this particular outlet to self soothe. Healing that pain can release you from the grip of porn and sex addiction.

The usual approaches of restriction, willpower, and shame fail because they treat the behavior without addressing the driver. When you address what's underneath, the compulsion loses its grip. Not through force, but because you're not trying to fill the same hole.

EMDR helps process the underlying material: the loneliness, the early experiences, the shame, so it stops running the show.

The compulsive behavior loses its charge. The shame quiets. You understand your own sexuality without judgment. You can be intimate without armor.

What Therapy Does

A lot of high-functioning people have never had a space to be honest about their sexual lives. You've talked around it, hinted at it, or kept it completely compartmentalized or hidden.

You don't have to do that here. Whatever you're carrying - the porn, the affairs, the kinks, the shame, the pain - you can put it on the table. It won't shock us. It won't change how we see you.

And once it's out in the open, it gets a lot easier to figure out what to do with it.

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